The Power in Positivity: 8 Tips to get you moving

Friends, Let me share something powerful and intimate with you.

Friday: I sent my husband this message . .

Saturday: I was listening to a podcast while cleaning the house. I heard a phrase that resonated with me and immediately ran to put it in my notes so I wouldn’t forget it.

Sunday: I’m Listening to a sermon LIVE online. The pastor is talking about serving, following your heart and figuring out what you are called to do. He states “God cannot steer a parked car, so get moving. Get busy and the rest will fall into place”.

Friends, If that isn’t a sign, I just don’t know what is.

So, that’s what I’m going to continue to do; Get moving, get busy and get back on track.

And I personally invite you on my journey to get going, and start fresh.

First things first love, take shame and throw it out the window.

Who cares if you have fallen off the wagon 15 times.

Nobody is perfect and life happens. So, forget all those feelings of shame and judgement that society has casted upon you. The only thing that matters is that even when life gets in the way and you veer off track, you always continue to get back on.

You know what they say, “It’s not how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up. So cliche, yet so true.

All it takes is getting into a routine filled with positivity and things start seamlessly falling into place once that positive energy resonates.

So, I would love to share with you the things that I’ve been doing, that have been helping me and encourage you to do them as well.

Journaling, (or in my case blogging). It’s a journal but, a public one. Why? To help and inspire others while helping myself and holding myself accountable because I truly feel like it’s something God keeps calling me to do.

Exercising: although I am doing it for weight purposes, I am also not trying to put to much pressure on myself with it. Instead, I’m doing it when I have time, and enjoying the benefits of how good it’s making me feel.

Stating Daily affirmations: I love doing these with my daughter in the morning or in the evening. We simply utter positive things about ourselves, encouraging self love and positivity.

Attending Service: Y’all we are incredibly busy. All. The. Time. However, we have made a promise to ourselves that even if we don’t make it to church physically, we will listen to a sermon on our phone or computer, even if it’s while multitasking.

Being self-aware and reflecting: I think it’s so important to be self-aware and reflect on the things you’ve been doing, while coming up with ways to improve.

Listening to Motivational and Inspirational podcasts: this something I have found to be the most effective. It keeps me ignited and on track more than anything else. I truly believe that who and what you surround yourself with is so important and that positive energy fuels positive energy.

I strongly encourage you to do these 8 things to get started. Join me in that positive headspace so we can get back to thriving together.

We’ve got a purpose, so let’s get moving and find it!

Facing your failures

If you google the word failure, the first definition you come across is “lack of success”.

Failure is such a shitty word. Nobody really wants to talk about it, and nobody definitely wants to live in it.

We all want to be successful. We all have dreams, aspirations, and are determined to make a name for ourselves. That’s why when we fail, or even at the mere possibility of failing, we shut down so easily.

We’ve all been there.

Maybe you failed when you missed the final shot at the sound of the shot clock in your high school playoff game. Maybe you failed at making a good decision. Maybe it was flunking the first ACT exam, or going blank during a big interview that you prepared so much for.

Maybe it was failing to figure out how to make your relationship work. Or, Maybe it was trying, and failing yet again on your 34th diet program in the last five years.

When I hear the word failure, it sounds so permanent to me. It sounds like an ending. It sounds like a state that you cannot overcome.

I mean think about it . .

“You are failing”.

“You failed”.

“You’re a failure”.

It sounds permanent and shameful. Even if you know it’s not a permanent state, it pushes you into a place that’s hard to get out of. A negative mindset.

A place of shame, and worry.

But what happens when we start looking at failure differently?

What happens if we take failure by the horns, and decide that we just aren’t accepting that fate.

What happens if we decide to face our failures head on?

When I started my inspirational blogging journey, I had people who loved it.

I had people constantly telling me it truly helped them, and they enjoyed reading my posts.

I began to write a self help series but I released it a little too early, and I also didn’t get the feedback I thought I would.

I immediately got discouraged and felt like I was going to fail.

I got into my own way.

I got into my own head,

and I gave up.

I wrote not only to help others, but to help myself as well.

When I was writing, I felt like I was constantly having true, rich conversations with God. I felt like I was more positive, motivated and empowered.

First it was fear of failure, and then it was being in the state of failure itself when I didn’t follow through.

And honestly it was also easy to give up with being so busy and focused on so many other things.

But Today, as I was listening to SHE podcast with Jordan Lee Dooley (One of my favorite motivational speakers, and such an influential person) and she said something that resonated with me.

The episode was talking about following your dreams, and getting started in what you feel that you are called to do.

In this episode, they were talking about how easy it was to fall into the “comparison” trap, and how destructive it can be.

Not only is it destructive because it is simply unhealthy to compare your progress to that of others but more-so because your likely comparing your progress to someone who is in a different stage of progress than you are.

I immediately realized, that was exactly what I had done.

I released what I felt like was my best work. It was something I was so excited about, and something that I imagined would take off, helping so many. And I immediately got discouraged when I didn’t get the feedback I thought I would. But yet I was comparing myself to people who have been motivational speakers or inspirational bloggers for years.

I’m pretty hard on myself. .

What can I say, I like to set the bar high!

But let’s be honest, it’s just not realistic.

I felt like I failed but in reality I hadn’t failed at anything until I actually, physically just gave up.

And that’s just it. . You don’t really “fail” until you give up.

So today, I’m deciding to face my failures, and get out of this state. . It’s not permanent.

Learn from your failures, and don’t let shame or worry stop you from your dreams.

The only thing you need to do is get back up, and do better than you did yesterday.

So what are you waiting for? No excuses. Go on, get up and keep going!